"What I learned confirmed Bowlby's message that patterns of relating
created by attachment, separation, and loss during the first few years
of life become fixed and impact all future relationships. It also
confirmed that couples' narratives (i.e. their presenting problems) are
the logical products of the cortex playing catch-up with the emotional
part of the brain. The limbic system reacts almost instantaneously.
This understanding supports the view that couple therapy should
concentrate not on the espoused content of the partners' conflict but
rather on their underlying core dynamics.
"Dr Walter Bracelmanns,
who was developing his own integration of couple therapy. I thank him
for the support that he gave to the new idea that the focus of the work
is the relationship, not the growth of the individual self of each
partner." - Marion Solomon in Love and War in Intimate Relationships
Couple
therapy theories vary greatly. So many different types of therapies
for couples can be confusing. Marion Solomon's focus is the couple and
getting the coupleship to work.
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