Three styles of relating:
"Anchor-
-Secure as individuals
-Willing to commit and fully share with another
-Generally happy people
-Adapt easy to the needs of the moment
"Island-
- Independent and self-reliant
-Take good care of themselves
-Productive and creative, especially when given space
-Low maintenance
"Wave-
-Generous and giving
-Focused on taking care of others
-Happiest when around other people
-Able to see both sides of an issue" - Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. in Wired for Love
It
is helpful to know that others don't relate in the same way we do.
Their attachment relating effects relationships. Securely attached,
insecurely avoidant, and insecurely ambivalent are other ways of saying
the above styles. The Stan Tatkin says "what a boring place this world
would be if it were any other way." That is an optimistic way to look
at relationship difficulties!
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