"But our view on pornography began to change in the mid-1990s. It
was then that we started seeing a troubling increase in the number of
clients coming to us with porn-related problems that were interfering
with their ability to maintain healthy relationships. It soon became
clear how easily sexual interests and desires could be twisted by
pornography, away from real intimacy, and toward technological devices,
people and situations that didn't actually exist. Porn's emphasis had
moved from helping couples becoming more sexually intimate with each
other to arousing the user to have a sexually relationship with it.
"That's
an important distinction: unlike many early erotic videos, magazines,
and books that were produced to help spice up lovemaking for couples,
porn began to offer itself as the object of desire. Today's
porn teaches users to think only about body parts and specific sexual
actions, robbing them of the ability to experience romance, passion, and
emotional and physical closeness with a real partner. It competes with partners as a sexual outlet....
"Because
using porn often involves high levels of dishonesty and secrecy, those
who are caught up in it often say they feel isolated, ashamed,
depressed, phony, morally compromised, and even in some cases,
suicidal. Many are angry, irritable, and unable to sleep. Some tell us
porn is leading them on a dangerous path into illegal and risky
activities, such as viewing child pornography, having affairs, having
anonymous sex at adult bookstores, hiring prostitutes, and viewing porn
at work. What we have found really troubling is that many of our
clients confide that they are unable to stop using pornography even when
they are aware of the negative consequences it is having on their
lives. As with alcohol, drugs or cigarettes, this is one of the signs
of a true addiction." - Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST & Larry Malts, LCSW
in The Porn Trap
Porn can be an
addiction. It can mess up those lives who are involved with it. Being a
Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, I deal with these broken lives every
day in my counseling office.
www.The-Wind-Project.com
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